I spent the Valentine’s Day alone just like the last four years, but this is the first time that I “celebrated” it. How? Treating me with this beautiful chocolate cake. 🙂
When I was making the cake, I thought about Star and these 9 years and half that we’ve been together. I realized that even though he’s not perfect and has things that I still don’t like (although I can accept them now), I can’t imagine spending the rest of my life with anyone else. I know that some of my friends might think that I’m with him because I feel safe and comfortable, that he can give me things that other men can’t, that marriage shouldn’t be so rational. blah blah! Well…. I am comfortable with him, but what’s even more important is that I am comfortable with myself when I am with him. He allows me to be just me. I don’t have to change myself to please anyone, I don’t need to pretend or hide my imperfections in front of him, I don’t feel the urge to change him. Believe me! It’s not easy to find these! For me, marriage is not just about passion and feelings, it is a rational decision too. I know this sounds bad. But passion or feelings fade away with time and they are not obstacles-prove. Only when I rationally think that we’re meant to be together (i.e., matching personalities, values and goals) I can be certain that he’s The one. Just like Gina said, the more time we spend with him, the more we love him. Maybe it’s not the same kind of love that we felt at the beginning of the relationship; maybe the initial passion and craziness is no longer there. But the love we built together is beyond that…. it’s much stronger and soul-healing. Soul-healing? yes! Because we don’t feel alone in this world anymore.
Single serving Chocolate cake, adapted from Grain-free bitter chocolate cake for one
- 1 egg
- 1/4 cup unsweetened cocoa powder
- 2 tbsp pumpkin puree
- 1/2 tsp vanilla
- 1/2 tsp baking powder
- 1 tbsp coconut oil
- 1 tbsp honey
Preheat oven to 375 F. Mix all of the above ingredients together. Add a splash of water until it reaches the consistency of a thick pudding. Bake for 20 min.
Other eats: stir-fry of red pepper, zucchini, oyster mushroom, egg and yam noodles.
I crave spicy food lately, so I sauteed it with soy sauce and a lot of spicy sichuan sauce.
served with homemade multi-grain bread
Poached salmon (soy sauce, cooking wine, brown sugar, ginger powder, S+P)
served with sweet hot mustard
sauteed chinese greens with mushrooms
This is my latest favorite snack combo: steamed corn + kabocha
I’ve been eating them in the afternoons, mid-mornings, before bed, heheh…. anytime 😉
Q1: What marriage means to you?
Q2: What’s your latest favorite snack?