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2017 to 2018

January is almost over and I haven’t recap our busy 2017 and set up my vision for 2018. But better late than never.

2017 has been a really good year. We decided to move to a new country, traveled to many places, we consolidated even more as family, and Tony and I adjusted well into our new life in the Philippines, and our love just grew even more (didn’t know that was even possible!)

Tony and me: I felt that we got closer this year, and adapted to each other even more. We had less fight or quicker fights because we both understood that it’s fine to argue and let it out, and then we quickly move on to the next thing. We also gave more space to each other (or better said, I gave him more space because he has always been good to me in that regard ;)). I learned more about his love language and he gave me what I need. He was very supportive of our move, which he had to give up the job he really likes, and left behind a life that he just started to build in the US. He knew it was a good thing for our family and he was up for the adventure. Yet, I had my concerns. His first year in the US was not easy and as couple we suffered, so I was concerned that this move would bring us back to where we were. Fortunately that didn’t happen. Partly because we knew each other better, partly because I was more considerate with him and he appreciated my effort. 4 months into our new life, we are both enjoying the new life. For 2018, I envision us growing more as a couple, as parent, and as individuals as we learn new culture, experience new adventures, and reflect more on what really matters to us.

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I also fell in love even more watchin him grow as a father. His patient, powerless, sweet, with Lizzy. I think he never thought he could love a creature as much as he does and I love seeing that in his face everyday.

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His love toward Sofia also grew. He’s spending more time with her, reading her every night and put her to sleep when I’m not at home. I can tell from Sofia that she feels protected by Tony and she relies on him when mommy is not around.

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Sofia and me: Sofia is turning into a girl everyday. My thoughts and feelings towards her is hard to describe. I love her so much! I worry about her wellbeing more than I should, both physically and emotionally. I observe consciously often just to notice whether something happened to her, or if I said something that would have hurt her. She might have a different perception of me of course because above all, I’m her mother and my mandate is to protect her, prepare her, and love her no matter what. I’m also trying to balance loving her vs. disciplining her. It’s hard, really hard to strike that balance and often I feel I’ve went too far in one of the sides. Fortunately she shines as a person, she thrives our new life in the Philippines. She’s eager to new places, new people, new adventures. The one thing that makes me the proudest mom is when she tells me she’s happy all the time.

We’ve started to have long conversation on a specific topic, from what she wants for her birthday (gift), how she wants to spend it, who should we invite for the party. What should we do when we visit X place. What if we have another baby, etc! We can have a 20 min conversation easily on a topic and I love it because I can start to gather her line of thoughts, her values (what she values more, for instance, reading to her, buying her gifts outweigh what another baby might bring). Sometimes she’d come up with a question that leaves me speechless. “mom, you go to work and your company gives you money. But who gives money to the first person?” Wooo!!! No wonder she’s the daughter of an economist.

This year we’ve continued our tradition of reading before bed time. Since we arrived the Philippines, we are doing 3 books, 2 with me and 1 with Tony. And on Sunday we’d do as many as time and my patience allows. She loves it! And although some days I am tired, I keep the promise and do it no matter what.

And few weeks ago, TV–watching on Sunday is banned! Why???? she was only watching it once a week. Well… that was because few times she watches during the week when she’s not supposed to. And one of those times I threaten her that if she does it again, she can’t watch TV ever! Well… she did it again and mama needs to keep her promise. But in return, I promised that on Sunday (instead of TV), we can read as many books as she wants. (shoot me!)

okay… jokes aside. I think I’m a very happy mom with Sofia, she makes me proud and I love seeing her growing and becoming a mini-adult with her thoughts and opinions. Yet, she still loves spending time with me the most and my recognition is her ultimate aim for any activity she does. But I can tell, she’s growing and her little mind is getting more independent. It’s a bittersweet feeling because it means she needs me a little less.

For 2018, I hope we get to spend more time alone. More relaxing and quiet chat to connect. I will work on listening her more because I feel sometimes I’m in a rush and not really listen to her. I will respect more her wishes within limits. I will continue to nudge her to help her conquer what she’s capable of.

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Lizzy and me: 2017 is the year we also got closer. Partly because she’s more vocal and can communicate more with us. We’ve spent a lot of time alone. Putting her to sleep at night is our time. It’s just 20 min or so, but we both enjoy it a lot. It’s quiet, no rush. I let her drink her milk. Sometimes I’d rub her feet or hands to sooth her even more. When she’s done with milk. I’ll sing a song three times to her then say good night. She often responds saying “mama” and then ready to sleep. If it’s another person, she’d complain for leaving her alone. But somehow she feels safe and secure with me and doesn’t complain and goes to sleep with peace.

We’ve also spend time alone when traveling, when Sofia is playing/outing with Tony. I’d be in charge entertaining Lizzy and she’s such a fun person. Her movement, her facial expression, her words, everything I find so funny and cute. So simply looking at her makes me smile.

With Lizzy, I’m in a more relax mode in the sense that I’m more patient because I know these moments are so short and whatever she’s going through will be over before we really notice it. So I just embrace everything, fun moments, annoying moments, even sleepless nights, I embrace them and even enjoy them somehow because it shows that she’s still a baby, and she needs mama.

The things I enjoy the most is our conversations. Most of the times she’d just respond: “si” but I feel that she understands me and that she enjoys having conversation with her mama too.

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For 2018, I hope we continue to have alone time, to find our dynamics of our relationship and cultivate further trust and love.

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seeing these two playing, bounding, is the best thing in the world. Melts my heart every time! 🙂

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With myself: 2017 I challenged me by running a first marathon, applied for a new job, moved to a new country, took even larger role as care taker of our family. I stopped complaining about “why I need to be doing everything?”, but changed my mind set to “i’m giving the best care to my family”. I became a happier person, more relaxed, more focus on the moment, more in love.

I also continue to find space and time for myself. Every morning, every run, every evening before time, every time I travel alone for work. I cherish these moments because they allow me pause and reflect what’s going on, and savour those wonderful moments I have with my family. I continued to grow as a person. I learned more people skills as I moved to a new country. It’s not the first time I did such a move (when I was 9, 13, 25) but I find that I became more resilient to changes because I’m more prepared mentally to conquer all the challenges in a positive way. Nothing really bothers me for long, which keeps me focusing on the positive side of things (there is always a positive side!).

For 2018, I hope to find more time to read, to spend more quality time with family (with each of them alone and as family), and to take care of myself. 🙂

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2017 was great and I’m sure 2018 will be even better as we explore East Asia countries and learn new cultures and ourselves. 🙂

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Lizzy: 20 months

The last 8 months was huge developmentally for Lizzy. She became more outgoing, social, funny, out speaking, and sweet. It seems that each day she’d learn a new word or action that would surprises us. Please pause this moment because it’s the best so  far!!! 🙂

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her bound with Sofia really got stronger since we moved to the Philippines. Not only she’d look for her sister when Sofia is not around. She’d grab Sofia’s hand when walking outside. And when Sofia is not feeling well, she’d go to her, trying to comfort her, or just to be there for her sister. She’s such a compassionate, sweet girl.

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her facial expression and her little hands and feet are soooo cute! I know every parent would say so about their kids, but seriously…. look at her…. so cute

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she also likes to make silly faces when taking selfies nowadays

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Sleeping: despite many disruptions in term of traveling and settling in a new country, overall her sleeping has been good, especially at night. When we’re not traveling, she sleeps in her own room. We’d start night routine (bath, milk, and song) around 7pm, and I’d leave her room around 7:20pm. Sometimes she’d cry a bit but usually stops within 2-3 min. When she sleeps with us while traveling, she’d wake up earlier than usual because she doesn’t want to miss any action. And it’s super cute that she’d semi-cry/call us in the morning. Most of the times we wouldn’t respond to her if it’s before 6am, and if Sofia is awake, Sofia will answer her.

Lizzy: jia jia (sister)

Sofia: ey…

Lizzy: jia jia

Sofia: ey

and repeat until both of them fell asleep again.

During nap time, Lizzy wants someone to be in her room until she fell asleep. During the week, the helper would put her to sleep. On weekend, I’d do it. Usually she’d be asleep within 20 min. But if Tony tries to put her to sleep, she wouldn’t sleep, all she wants is to play with daddy. 🙂

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when she’s awake, she’s a happy girl, but sometimes she’d wake up crying as if someone interrupts her sleep. I’d just let her cry until she’s over the discomfort.

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this girl loves going out, especially since we moved to the Philippines and had been traveling a lot. Whenever I say, let’s go, she’d go to the shoe rack running and try to find her shoe to be ready. 🙂

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Eating: all over the place. She’s not a big eater unless it’s fruit. She wants to eat fruit all the time and all kinds. She also likes pouches. She doesn’t like carbs like other kids. She rarely eats bread. Sometimes she’d have crackers. So for breakfast, usually she’d have some fruit and eggs. For main meals, she’d have some noodles, and fish. Oh yes, she loves fish and always wants some if we’re eating it. But overall, she’s not a big eater and doesn’t eat a lot junk either. We just follow her lead. She does love milk. Before nap and night sleep, she’d happily have a 7-8 oz. of milk by herself. I’d say that’s her comfort food.

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She loves going to playgrounds. She loves exploring the place with the company of an adult usually.

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she also likes to be around her sister when Sofia has a playdate. Although she can’t play with them, she loves to follow them

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many times Sofia and her friend will play with her as Lizzy were a doll

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she started going to daycare when we arrived here. At first she was crying for a while when Tony leaves the class, but lately she does well and loves playing with her friends

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she likes activities, music, snack time

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she didn’t like mess her hands and clothes at first, but slowly she saw that these could be fun and she now enjoys art activities

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she’s very easy to travel with too. We went to Bohol for 5 days and she did great.

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she took naps when she needed without much fuss

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she LOVES going to the pool and is fearless

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she particularly loves singing and playing with Sofia, they entertainment themselves for 2.5 hrs on our way from the airport to home

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she loves her mama chatting with her in the mornings…. what a lovely smile

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but sometimes she gets mad and gives me an attitude too… which I find it super cute as well

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Language development: big time. She now can say 5 words in mandarin. She says words in english learned from school (she can count until six), say please, thank you, etc. She knows many words in spanish (agua, abrir, comer, si), and chinese. When I speak to her with instructions, she can usually follow, such as ask her to find something in her room. She’d go alone and pick it from the big mess what I ask her for. 🙂

Her personality is coming out more and more these days. At the similar age, Sofia was not as outgoing as Lizzy but obviously things changed a lot for Sofia. So far Lizzy is showing her compassion, outgoing, social, flexible personality to us. I love seeing her grow.

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Lizzy: 1 year old

Lizzy turned 1 year old a week ago. She developed very fast during the last three months. From not moving in one spot, to fully crawling, to cruising, and to walking by herself. She’s developed some personality. She is an easy going girl. She learned that daddy will give in so whenever she sees him, she wants him to pick her up. She knows that mama and grandma have limits. She knows that her sister is the one plays with her. She likes being silly with her sister. She likes to tease everyone around her to play with her. She smiles at strangers just because. She is ADORABLE!!!

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Sleeping: she’s still a great sleeper. She falls into sleep without problem by herself. Her naps are getting shorter. 1.5-2 hrs in the morning, and 1-1.5 hrs in the afternoon. But she can spend up to an hour by herself in the crib playing, “talking”, walking. She still takes two naps. One around 9am, another one around 2pm. Her bedtime at night is usually 7:30pm and wakes up between 7-8am.

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Eating: she’s still eating almost everything but definitely developed some preferences. She loves fruits! She could eat fruit all day long and all kinds of fruits. She can easily eat a banana, a clementine and a kiwi in one sitting. She loves yogurt until this week, and we observe her obsession with yogurt declined a bit but still eats it. She doesn’t enjoy puree food anymore unless it’s from a pouch. So we’ve been giving her puree food once a day maximum. Lately it has been oatmeal with banana; mashed sweet potato with applesauce. She prefers real food. She gets anxious whenever she sees us eating, and she wants to have whatever we have. So we started to give her mini dumplings, noodles, cheese, sauteed vegetables, or anything that we’re eating. She does not always like them, she’ll try few bites and loses interest. She has three teeth, so she could bite some but not too much. I can’t wait her to have more teeth so she can eat more real food.

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In general, I’m very relax with her eating, much less concerned about it than with Sofia. I know Lizzy will be a good eater. I can see that and I know it because of her dad. My goal is to offer her real and healthy food, a large variety of food, so she gets a balanced nutrition, and that she becomes a sophisticated eater.

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Playing: she loves playing with her sister. Every night after dinner they’ll play 20 min… doing hide and seek… chase each other, or just being silly together. Her eyes light up when she’s playing with her sister. I love love seeing them together. She can play by herself for 10-15 min before coming to us, and then she’ll go again to play some more.

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Likes: she likes to be held by us, but only Tony does  it often. My mom and I try not to pick her up too much, we want her to learn to entertain herself and be independent.

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She likes going out. We don’t take her to places just for her to play, but mainly take her wherever we go… usually to do groceries, to the playground with Sofia, or to meet with friends.

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Other developments:

She started to say mama and papa around 11 months old. At 1 year mark, she can also say grandma in chinese “a ge”, big sister “jia jia” sometimes. She knows how to say goodbye with her hands, gesture for thanks, to cool the food, and grandma’s expression when drinking coffee “jaaaa”. When she listens to music/piano song, she’d move her body from one side to the other. So cute!

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Overall… she’s a great baby. She’s so adorable with her chubby hands and foot. Her silly smiles makes us want to eat her. 🙂

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Weight: 18 lbs. 8 oz (31st)

Height: 29.25 in (54th)

HC: 17.75 in (56th)

 

 

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