Lizzy: 1 year old

Lizzy turned 1 year old a week ago. She developed very fast during the last three months. From not moving in one spot, to fully crawling, to cruising, and to walking by herself. She’s developed some personality. She is an easy going girl. She learned that daddy will give in so whenever she sees him, she wants him to pick her up. She knows that mama and grandma have limits. She knows that her sister is the one plays with her. She likes being silly with her sister. She likes to tease everyone around her to play with her. She smiles at strangers just because. She is ADORABLE!!!

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Sleeping: she’s still a great sleeper. She falls into sleep without problem by herself. Her naps are getting shorter. 1.5-2 hrs in the morning, and 1-1.5 hrs in the afternoon. But she can spend up to an hour by herself in the crib playing, “talking”, walking. She still takes two naps. One around 9am, another one around 2pm. Her bedtime at night is usually 7:30pm and wakes up between 7-8am.

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Eating: she’s still eating almost everything but definitely developed some preferences. She loves fruits! She could eat fruit all day long and all kinds of fruits. She can easily eat a banana, a clementine and a kiwi in one sitting. She loves yogurt until this week, and we observe her obsession with yogurt declined a bit but still eats it. She doesn’t enjoy puree food anymore unless it’s from a pouch. So we’ve been giving her puree food once a day maximum. Lately it has been oatmeal with banana; mashed sweet potato with applesauce. She prefers real food. She gets anxious whenever she sees us eating, and she wants to have whatever we have. So we started to give her mini dumplings, noodles, cheese, sauteed vegetables, or anything that we’re eating. She does not always like them, she’ll try few bites and loses interest. She has three teeth, so she could bite some but not too much. I can’t wait her to have more teeth so she can eat more real food.

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In general, I’m very relax with her eating, much less concerned about it than with Sofia. I know Lizzy will be a good eater. I can see that and I know it because of her dad. My goal is to offer her real and healthy food, a large variety of food, so she gets a balanced nutrition, and that she becomes a sophisticated eater.

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Playing: she loves playing with her sister. Every night after dinner they’ll play 20 min… doing hide and seek… chase each other, or just being silly together. Her eyes light up when she’s playing with her sister. I love love seeing them together. She can play by herself for 10-15 min before coming to us, and then she’ll go again to play some more.

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Likes: she likes to be held by us, but only Tony does ย it often. My mom and I try not to pick her up too much, we want her to learn to entertain herself and be independent.

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She likes going out. We don’t take her to places just for her to play, but mainly take her wherever we go… usually to do groceries, to the playground with Sofia, or to meet with friends.

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Other developments:

She started to say mama and papa around 11 months old. At 1 year mark, she can also say grandma in chinese “a ge”, big sister “jia jia” sometimes. She knows how to say goodbye with her hands, gesture for thanks, to cool the food, and grandma’s expression when drinking coffee “jaaaa”. When she listens to music/piano song, she’d move her body from one side to the other. So cute!

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Overall… she’s a great baby. She’s so adorable with her chubby hands and foot. Her silly smiles makes us want to eat her. ๐Ÿ™‚

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Weight: 18 lbs. 8 oz (31st)

Height: 29.25 in (54th)

HC: 17.75 in (56th)

 

 

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Motherhood guilty

With two girls, almost 5 and 1, I feel that I’m not progressing as I wanted to be a better mom. I am embarrassed by what I’m about to share, but I want to do it anyway to mark it as the start of something new.

This morning during my run I told myself to be more patient, more flexible, less strict on not important things with Sofia, and stop yelling at her. I’ve been having this nagging feeling that I’m becoming that mom that I don’t want to be. I want her to listen to me, respect me, but not too afraid of me. What happened few weeks ago about her putting rocks in her ears was my wake up call. She was too afraid to tell me what she did, so she had to go through a painful process to get the rocks out. I don’t want this kind of event to happen again. I would like her to want to talk to me about her struggles, her mistakes, even they are embarrassing, even she knows that I wouldn’t approve them. But for that to happen, I need to create an environment of trust and respect, trust so she knows that no matter what she does, I’ll always be on her side and love her even if I don’t agree with her. Respect so she respects my opinion and seeks for advice when she’s confused.

For these to happen, I need to change. Yes, I need to change because honestly she’s the best daughter and 5 years old that I could ever expect. It’s me who’s being disappointing for myself, and probably to her. I know I’ve established authority over her, and she knows when I say no it means no, and no renegotiable. So I don’t need to work on establishing that anymore. Instead, I need to work on building the trust. For that, I need to be patient, and not use every opportunity that it presents to confirm my authority, not those that are not relevant.

So… that was what I planned to do during my run this morning. And then… I did it again.

When we were leaving, all dressed up and shoes on, Sofia wanted to take her shoes off to go upstairs to grab her paintings to take to school. I said no, I was in rush, I didn’t want to wait. But she took the shoes off and started going upstairs nonetheless. I was furious… I said no again and again… threatening on not taking her to school if she didn’t listen to me. She cried and came down with her paintings. I insisted that I wouldn’t take her if she takes her paintings. At the end, we left the house 5 min late without the paintings.

I am devastated. I feel immensely guilty. I didn’t have to say no on that small request. I did it because I wanted to show I had authority over her. That’s what frustrates me the most. Why on earth I needed to prove that? to whom? She’s only 5, soon she will be old enough to not wanting to listen to me, to defeat my authority. What am I going to do by then? And I want to nurture her to become an independent women, with confidence and own thinking. I won’t achieve that if I keep making the same mistake over and over again.

I need to do better.

I need to change.

I need to change for her well being and my sanity.

I know that nobody is perfect.. we all have these moments that we slip away from our ideal self. But I also need to acknowledge that slippage is okay as long as they are not the norm.

I’ll check back in a week. I know I won’t change overnight.. I will still slip … but I hope these episodes happen less and less often as I become more conscious about it and make an effort to contain the urge. I know that it will become easier as I acquire this new “habit”.

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Life lately: march

I went to Rio de Janeiro for work for a week. It was my second time there, the first time was 10 years ago. I enjoyed this second time in Rio so much. Having this view from the hotel room made a big difference.

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and being able to run everyday by the beach was a privilege

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although I was exhausted by the end of my 8 mile one day… so hot!

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but the best part in Rio was the food. I ate sooo well and soo many octopus! My favorite dish ever!

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and the company was great. I really liked the people I work with. Such a genuinely kind people.

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I also tried the 6 mile loop by the lake with this breathtaking view

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on the last day I had two hours to do a mini tour, visited the new museum by the city center

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and selaron stairs

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I missed so much my girls who was growing so fast

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when I came back, all I wanted was to soaked up with them

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Sofia got sick (flu) and had to stay at home for 4 days. Yikes! Poor girl.

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but she collaborated most of the time with grandma by eating well, taking the medicine and rest

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when she was too bored, she’d ask grandma to do her hair

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This pic of Tony feeding Lizzy melts my heart. It makes me love him so much! ย He’s such a good father, so patient with her and wants to spoil her. But he also trusts me and listens to me when I say we shouldn’t spoil her all the time. So glad we agreed on that. ๐Ÿ™‚

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we didn’t do much on weekends other than Sofia’s piano class. Mainly because I was very busy at work, my marathon training is getting more intense, so all I want on weekends is rest. Fortunately the family is fine with that, we all enjoy our time spent at home. ๐Ÿ™‚

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