Committed clarified something to me: what I was sure for >20 years about true love is actually not LOVE, but INFATUATION.
“Infatuation leads to “intrusive thinking” in which you cannot concentrate on anything other than the object of your obsession. Infatuation alters your brain chemistry similar to a cocaine addict. Infatuated lover, just like any junkie, “will go to unhealthy, humiliating, and even physically dangerous lengths to procure their narcotic.” Research shows that people are more susceptible to infatuation when they are going through delicate or vulnerable times in their lives. The new love seems like a EXIT from current problem. But infatuation is not the same thing as love. When you become infatuated with somebody, you’re not really looking at that person; you’re just captivated b your own reflection, intoxicated by a dream of completion that you have projected on a virtual stranger.”
I personally experienced all of the above and I’m glad I did. That was the most exhilarating sensations that I’ve ever experienced. Just as the author says, that kind of love makes you feel superheroic, mytical, beyond human. You radiate life; you need no sleep; your beloved fills your lungs like oxygen. As painful as that experience turned out in the end I would not want anyone to go through an entire lifetime never knowing what it feels like to morph euphorically into another person’s being.
However, I CAN’T LIVE that way!!! That’s not a possible lifestyle for someone who also wants a career, a family and friends, because that person would absorb all your energy and time.
oh…. Thanks Liz, it’s such a relieve to finally understand the difference between love and infatuation!!!
Okay. I won’t ask you if you had experience like that. Just tell me your thoughts about this
Now… lets move into something lighter just for your eyes pleasure. I don’t know… lately I enjoy more taking pictures of my food in a style or pure esthetic sense, like lighting, angle, color contrast, etc. Have you noticed that?
high-fiber & high-fat bread with milk made with soy beans, peanuts and red dates.
During my mini-breaks, I write note to myself
Opened a new tea. It’s called Detox tea, but actually it’s just mate, green tea and lemon grass.
colorful stir-fry with my favorite seasonings to please my belly and eyes
purple porridge made with steel cuts & black rice
and the no-matching chopsticks. I have a problem… I don’t know why but I can’t never grab the right pair
re-watching Sex and the city for the 1000th time!!
beauty drink (white fungus, red dates and goji berries) as dessert
I started to have a bowl of this every night before bed to help me to sleep. It’s the same porridge with lotus seed added.
it worked most of the nights!
Q: When was your first love?